Who is your support team?
If you regularly read and enjoy our blogs, firstly, let me commend your excellent taste, and secondly, you’ll already know we spend a lot of time reminding you how important it is that you enjoy your life. It’s no secret that we’re firm believers in wellbeing, enjoyment, hard work, fulfilment, kindness, enthusiasm, creativity and happiness – both at work and at play.
Achieving all these things on a regular basis is no small feat. Life gets in the way sometimes and without warning, is prone to throwing any semblance of balance off course. Colleagues, work schedules, family, illness, weather, children, travel complications – all of these factors (and more) add regular complications to the daily running of our lives and can build up to create stress of all shapes and sizes.
Because of life’s unpredictable nature, building a solid, unflinching core at the centre of your life is a great investment of time and energy – so that when life throws you limes, not only can you catch them, you can also make a damn fine Margarita.* But how to build this core? Defining and strengthening the key teams in your life is the secret. That means not just your team at work, but also your support teams in other areas of your life such as friends and family.
Good strong teams need nurturing if you want them to retain their powerful status in your life, and there are three super simple things you can do to ensure the foundations of your life are robust and are geared to take a battering when a storm is on the horizon!
- SHOW YOU VALUE YOUR TEAM MEMBERS
Everybody wants to feel valued. There is only so much GIVING a person will be prepared to do without receiving something positive in return. Just as we like to be rewarded in our jobs (and not just with a paycheque) we also like to be rewarded in our friendships and for our loyalties. If you have a ‘go-to’ friend whenever life gets you down, make sure you’re there for that person when they need it – without waiting to be asked.
Valuing members of your ‘life teams’ acts like the glue that holds relationships together. Without it, the structure of friendship develops weaknesses that become harder and harder to patch up.
- COMMUNICATE BETTER
No teams truly work well without great communication. If the key supporting member of your ‘family team’ is a parent, make sure you communicate regularly – and not just when you need support. Spend time with them, make sure you’re there for one another’s ups and downs, enjoy one another’s company, build the strength of your relationship through loving communication.
Communicating well with your team at work is a no-brainer, but it can be easier said than done. Remember that you can’t expect support in times of need if you seize control of the reins all the time. Share the knowledge, share the workload, share the ideas. Being open, honest and authentic with your work team is not always easy, but not only will your relationships benefit, your stress levels probably will too.
Not sure you’re communicating well with your life teams? Put your communication skills into practice and ask!
Teams aren’t just a fall back for when the going gets tough. The strongest ones talk through failures together and celebrate successes like there’s no tomorrow. Getting together over milestones, whether positive or negative ones helps bring people closer – and helps give new perspectives too.
Teams always require work in these three areas, but this is fulfilling, enjoyable work, so see it as such (and remember, you are a team member too). A strong back-up team to cover for you when you need it makes for a more comfortable, stress-free life, so it’s an investment worth making. Literally all the people you care about will love you more for your efforts – what greater incentive is there than that?
*The expression is traditionally ‘lemons’ but no self-respecting person will put these in a Margarita.